I did something unthinkable this weekend — I threw away a cross-stitch project I had been working on.
This was not a decision I made lightly. Although I have plenty of UFOs that I may or may not ever finish, I have never thrown away a project before.
Mostly I didn’t want to get rid of it because of the perceived waste:
–throwing away good fabric
–throwing away used thread
–the time I had already invested in the project
Fortunately, the project was a small one. It was a single ornament — part of a set of 8 ornaments. I had already stitched 4 of the patterns in the set. So, I was only losing a 4-inch square piece of evenweave and a relatively small amount of thread.
So, why did I want to throw it away? I wanted to toss it because I had made several errors stitching it that affected the look of the piece. I had already ripped and resewn one section, and then I discovered additional mistakes, and it was too late to pick them out. Usually I just soldier on if a mistake is minor, but these were so bad (to my mind) that I no longer wanted to finish the piece. I was actively resisting working on it, and it was preventing me from wanting to stitch at all.
After it sat on my desk for over a week, untouched, I took a deep breath and gave myself permission to just toss it.
I thought I would feel a twinge of guilt over the waste, but you know what? I felt relieved. Throwing away this bungled project removed guilt rather than added to it. I felt a tiny, tiny weight lift from my shoulders because I no longer had to work on this project which I now hated.
Now I am free to work on something I will enjoy. But, I think I will take a break from this particular set of ornaments…
“actively resisting working on it” definitely the definition of something that needs to be tossed. sometimes I find myself actively resisting reading b/c of the book I’m stuck in and that’s when I know it’s time to move on…
Yes, it’s funny because I have finally gotten to the point where I have no problem putting aside a book I’m not enjoying, but I still have a hard time saying “no” to other projects I no longer enjoy.
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I applaud you for having the courage to get rid of what no longer served you any purpose. I am glad you have relief over it and not guilt. Now you can move on to progress with something else.
Thank you. Sometimes it is hard to admit that something is just not working out.